(Sorry about the title, I couldn’t resist.)
Every so often, there pops up on Twitter this one (really annoying) discourse, summed up as “where are all the good f/f books”. Firstly, good is incredibly subjective, but we’re not going to go into that here. What I’m going to talk about actually is emotion socialisation and gender.
“Right,” you say, “but what’s that got to do with this?”
What it has to do is this: a lot of what’s called “good” here revolves around the emotions it evokes. That is, the same tropes show up in m/f, m/m and f/f, and yet f/f is the only one where people ask “where’s the good stuff”. My argument here is that at least some part of this can be attributed to how a book evokes emotions. Particularly, how the emotions it is acceptable in society for men or women to feel translate into relationships.
As ever, I’m not gonna act like I have the answers. This is, instead, some theorising for you to think about.
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